Korky Kemp serves as the Eastern Director for College Golf Fellowship, a national ministry with nine full time staff based around the country. Having played golf at NC State, then professionally for seven years on various tours, he started working with CGF in 2005. Through outreach banquets, team and tournament visits, weekly Bible studies, individual discipleship and retreats with PGA Tour players, the staff of CGF strive to impact the world of college golf and beyond with the life changing message of the gospel of Jesus Christ. This blog post was adapted from Korky’s Links Player devotional on being the kind of spouse or future spouse God wants you to be.
Golf, God and Marriage
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” Colossians 3:18 NIV
When I first got married, my wife, Helen, caddied for me on various professional golf tours. She proved to be a great encouragement to me as she carried my bag on the PGA Tour, Web.Com Tour, Hooters Tour and various other tours. If you were to meet her, the last thing you would ever think is that she was formerly a tour caddie. Raised in Charleston, South Carolina, Helen has a sweet southern accent and had never watched or played golf until we met in college.
Being a very driven, intense competitor, often times I did not treat my wife and caddie according to scripture. I remember one instance, when I was warming up to play in a tournament round, and she was still in the clubhouse or at the car as I was hitting balls about 20 minutes before my tee time. With about ten minutes before I was scheduled to tee off, she shows up on the range. I had left her several clubs to clean, took my 3 wood out of the bag and rudely told her, “Clean the clubs, and I’ll meet you on the first tee.” A few minutes later, she walks to first tee and throws the bag on the ground and says something like, “Clean your own clubs!”
Colossians 3:18 states, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” This is a very convicting verse.
Looking back, I definitely would have benefited from applying this verse in my marriage, especially as Helen was caddying for me. I thank God for his grace and forgiveness of my sins as I definitely have not been close to the husband he desires in years past.
God is amazing as his word applies today just as much as it did 2,000 years ago. For Paul to encourage husbands to not be harsh, obviously that was a problem back then. The same holds true today.
Over the last few years, I have been in a state of repentance to the Lord over how I treat Helen. God has definitely worked to change me and improve the condition of my marriage as I strive to treat Helen with honor, dignity, respect, gentleness and love.
A statement that holds true is that marriage is not meant just to make you happy, but rather to make you holy. I thank the Lord for the wonderful wife he gave me and hope to glorify God with how I interact with my bride.
In conclusion, if you are not married, God’s word guides you to either be the kind of man he desires or, for the ladies, to look for that kind of man in the future. If you are married, for the guys, God is calling you to love your wife well and not be harsh. For the married ladies, Colossians 3:18 provides some characteristics that prove valuable to affirm in your husbands.
When speaking with young men in college or those playing professionally golf today, I will always brag on my wife and tell them that any girlfriend or wife that is willing to caddie for you, that is a good woman!!!
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